Call for action

The title might seem unusual for today’s topic, but stay with me. I hope it all comes together by the end.

I’ve been fortunate to live in many places and experience various cultures. One of the most striking things I’ve noticed is how quickly people form impressions of others, and how readily they judge. How tightly people hold onto their judgments, even when given a chance to reconsider.

For example, have you ever thought about the differences between “individualistic” and “collectivist” societies, especially in how they approach strangers and personal disclosure?

I’m not here to generalize as there are always exceptions. But to share a personal example, some people in the past have called me “aloof,” “unfriendly,” and even “arrogant,” simply because I wasn’t comfortable sharing personal details with people I just met or didn’t know how to make small talk at social events.

Here’s the reality for those who hold onto their judgments about people who don’t meet their expectations: Cultural differences matter, and research supports this.

If you grew up in an “individualistic” society, you’re likely more open and share personal details early on. In contrast, people from “collectivist” societies may be more reserved. However, once friendships form, those in collectivist cultures often have deeper, more intimate conversations, while individualists may stay at a more surface level.

Picture a continuum. On the far left are “individualistic” societies, like the U.S. and Canada. On the far right are “collectivist” societies, such as Eastern countries. In the middle are Eastern European countries, including Romania. Since the fall of communism in 1989, these countries have been moving toward individualism, showing a mix of collectivist and individualist traits.

From this middle ground, and through my experiences in different cultures, I call for more knowledge and less ignorance. “Ignorance is bliss” doesn’t apply here. You don’t want to be the narrow-minded person who dismisses others from different cultures with labels like “another breed,” as I just overheard someone say.

Instead, let’s challenge ourselves to step outside limiting perceptions. What seems unfamiliar or “different” often comes from cultural values we may not fully understand at first glance. The world is more interconnected than ever, and cultural awareness isn’t optional anymore – it’s essential.

Ignorance breeds division and judgment, while knowledge fosters unity and empathy. Let’s aim to be people who seek to understand before forming opinions. The world offers many perspectives, and we all have something valuable to learn from each other.

So here’s my call for action: Next time you meet someone who doesn’t fit your expectations, pause before you judge. Dare to expand your circle beyond those who share your background and experiences. Seek out honest, meaningful conversations with those who are different from you.