Let’s be honest — when was the last time you felt not enough?
At some point, we’ve all looked in the mirror or scrolled through social media and thought, “Wow, everyone else seems to have their sh*t together, and I’m just here trying to figure out what day it is.”
Thinking: not smart enough. Not good-looking enough. Not successful enough. Not young enough, not rich enough. It’s like there’s a giant “Not Enough” buffet and we keep going back for more.
The truth? The feeling of “not enough” doesn’t come from being less than others — it comes from constantly comparing ourselves to other people’s highlight reels. You’re measuring your behind-the-scenes mess against someone else’s carefully edited movie trailer. And of course, you’re gonna feel like you need better lighting and a major script rewrite.
But the thing is people who look like they’ve got it all together feel like they’re not enough too. That billionaire with the private jet is probably comparing himself to the guy with the spaceship and the flying car. That influencer who looks like a Greek god secretly worries about his nose looking too big on camera. Everyone’s got their own “not enough” list.
So what does it take to get out of that feeling?
First — stop chasing that perfect image. There’s no magical point where you suddenly become “enough.” Unless you’re one of those carefully curated AI personas, you don’t wake up one morning with a certificate from the universe saying, “Congratulations, you’ve achieved full perfection!”
Second — start noticing. All the things you’ve learned. All the things you’ve survived. All the things you’ve grown through that those “perfect” people might never have had to face. That’s worth more than a flawless selfie or having that X-figure income.
Third — take action. Feeling “not enough” is your fear with a hunchback. Half the people who look picture-perfect just learned better posture.
So next time you hear that voice in your head whispering, “You’re not enough,” just smile and say, “Thanks for the feedback, but I’m too busy being me.”
Because who you are right now is plenty enough.